| Relationship Aspect | “Deposits” I made | “Deposits” my partner made | Equal? Fair Contribution? |
| Time | e.g. 2 years long distance, stayed with him and called | e.g. 2 years long distance, stayed with me and called | Fair |
| Emotional Support | e.g. I listened to him and offered advice or support | e.g. he listened to me and partially cared about what I said | Unequal–I listened and cared more |
| Family/Friends | e.g. Introduced him to my friends; spoke very highly of him to everyone | N/A | Unequal—we always saw my friends |
| Sex/Affection | e.g. I had sex even when I did not feel like it; I thought he was hot | e.g. He told me I was attractive and wanted to please me | Fair |
| Gifts | e.g. I knitted him a sweater | e.g he bought me a bicycle when mine was stolen | Unfair? He never wore the sweater |
| Attention/Communication | e.g. I wrote long, loving letters when we were apart | e.g. he wrote long, loving letters and came to visit me | Unequal—he traveled the extra miles |
| Chores/help | N/A | N/A | |
| Kids (if applicable) | N/A | N/A | |
| Money | e.g. We always took turns paying; I lived at home to pay school loans | e.g. He paid half of anything, and lived at home to pay school loans | Fair |
| Fun/Humor | e.g. I was silly and like to use voices to pretend we were other people | e.g. he sometimes made jokes | Unequal—he was too serious |
| Relationship Aspect | “Withdrawals” I made | “Withdrawals” my partner made | Equal? Fair Demand? |
| Time | e.g. I only allowed him to see me 3 nights per week because I was busy with work and school | N/A | Unfair—I was too rigid with my schedule |
| Emotional Support | e.g. I needed a lot of emotional support | N/A | Unfair—I needed his support and understanding much more than he needed mine |
| Family/Friends | e.g. he never came over to my house (did not like my family) | e.g. his Mom did not like me, but I went to his house all the time anyway | Unfair—I wanted him to come to my house more |
| Sex/Affection | e.g. I hooked up with someone else ☹ | N/A | Unfair—I cheated |
| Gifts | N/A | N/A | |
| Attention/Communication | e.g. I wanted him to listen to all parts of my life/self | e.g. there were many parts of him hidden to me | Unequal |
| Chores/help | N/A | N/A | |
| Kids (if applicable) | N/A | N/A | |
| Money | N/A | N/A | |
| Fun/Humor | e.g. I sometimes made him the butt of my jokes when with friends | N/A | Unfair—I needed to be more mature |
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